Talking to Your Daughter about Menstruation

The women of POKA have shared their period stories. For some, it came as a total surprise. Other’s  had “the talk”. Here are some ways to initiate the period conversation with your daughter before her first period."

Navigating the topic of menstruation with your daughter before it happens can be a crucial and empowering moment in her life. As parents or caregivers, you play a pivotal role in providing accurate information and emotional support as she embarks on this natural phase of growing up.

Menstruation is a normal part of a woman's life, yet misconceptions and taboos often surround it. By starting these conversations early and openly, you help your daughter build a healthy relationship with her body and foster a sense of confidence and self-awareness. 

Here's how you can navigate these conversations:

Start Early:

It's a good idea to start conversations about menstruation before it occurs.  This prepares her emotionally and mentally for the changes her body will undergo.

Create a Safe Space:

Choose a comfortable and private environment where she feels safe to ask questions without hesitation. A safe space also includes a safe mental space. This means, before she ever gets her period, you should create a safe and enabling relationship where she feels comfortable talking to you about her problems. 

Use Simple Language:

Use simple, accurate terms to explain what menstruation is and why it happens.

Timing Matters:

Pick a moment when you both have some uninterrupted time. This could be during a casual car ride, a cosy evening at home, or a calm walk in the neighbourhood.

Be Positive:

Approach the conversation with positivity. Highlight the natural and healthy aspects of menstruation, emphasising that it's a normal part of growing up.

Answer Questions:

Be prepared to answer any questions she may have. If you don't have an answer, it's okay to say you'll find out together.

Empower with Information:

Explain how to manage menstruation, including using sanitary products. Discuss different options, with emphasis on sustainable options like period cups, discs and underwear, and let her choose what makes her most comfortable.

Normalise the Experience:

Share your own experiences and anecdotes to show that menstruation is a shared experience among women. This can help normalise any concerns she might have.

Keep Talking:

Check in with her regularly, and let her know you're always available to discuss anything related to her body or well-being.

 

A woman’s first period is a significant milestone, and approaching it with love, understanding, and respect can shape your daughter’s perspective on her own body and instil a sense of self-confidence. 

The  Poka app is a great guide for first-time (and long-standing) menstruators. We are happy to support you and your daughter every step of the way on your menstruation  journey. Feel free to explore our resources and continue the conversation on our platforms. Together, we can empower the next generation of African women.

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